Ex-Husband's Wedding

As a good friend said, "We wish them well and our karma is good."

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Healing

(This was comment #37 on a previous post, so I thought I'd post as a new subject and for some closure.)

It is true that time heals wounds (notice I didn't say "all" wounds), and I believe that what does not destroy us makes us stronger.

I can only speak of myself when I say that I have grown so much from this experience. I have found in myself an inner strength that I did not know I have. At the beginning of November, I will be in an apartment (and have asked my boyfriend to move in with me), and just last weekend, I purchased my very own FIRST CAR! I love my new job and "new life". Financially, I'm on my way and very pleased with all that I have been able to accomplish on my own.

Emotionally, I’m so much stronger and practical that I thought I ever could be. I won’t pretend I got to this point on my own… on the contrary, my family (most of them anyway) have been supportive and loving; my true friends have offer all kinds of help and support; and my sons have even been an inspiration with their upbeat outlooks. I am a much more mature person since leaving that 14 year marriage. Perhaps my ex-husband took such good care of me that I grew dependant on him and never knew my own strength.

As an update, the boys are faring rather well. They are doing well in school, great news as we were all worried that the divorce would negatively affect their schoolwork. Their father has begun to get them active in physical extra-curricular activities so they will not be sitting at home in front of the computer or television all week. And I think they actually enjoy doing different activities with me on the weekends when we visit together.

Even the ex-husband has healed and moved on… he’ll be getting married on October 14, 2006. I know the future Mrs. and have no doubt that they will be more compatible that he and I were. (And for those of you who worry, she’ll be just fine with the boys. Their father would never allow anyone in their lives that would not love and care for them.) No, I was not invited to the wedding, and I never expected to be. That would just be weird.

I must add my sour note, however, and say that I think the ex-husband owes me a thank- you card. If it were not for MY courage to end our 14-year marriage, he would not be re-marrying and would not have found his perfect mate. But I know I won’t get a thank you. LOL.

Thanks to everyone – both online and offline – that have been supportive or shared your experiences. Sometimes it is just very nice to know that others who have been through something similar have “lived to tell about it”. To those who haven’t been as supportive to me, thanks to you, too. It shows you cared enough to comment. In today’s busy world, it is nice to know that people care enough to take the time to comment, regardless of their stance on the subject.

Now I just need to find the time to get back to digital scrapping… I miss that creative outlet! Thanks again everyone!

~Cristina